Archive for August, 2011

4
23
Aug

Looking in the Rear View Mirror

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“You think you’re looking for a spouse, and the truth is you are looking for HOPE.” -JP

I love that the last two weeks at The Porch haven’t been like a magazine five tips to dating or how to find a man/woman, but rather dealing with the real issue…ourselves. We are the the common denominator to all of our relationships and at the end of the day the healthier we become, the healthier our relationships will be.

I remember sitting in JP’s office back in 2009 and discussing with him how I didn’t agree with the way he was telling us (young adults at The Porch) to date. I probably argued some of the same points you may be thinking, but he said something I couldn’t argue with, Read the rest of this entry »

2
16
Aug

Boy Meets Girl (Part 3)

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The Porch at Watermark, August 16, 2011
Jonathan Pokluda, Boy Meets Girl

Intro: don’t take a bunch of baggage on your honeymoon. Deal with your baggage before you get there. There’s a lot of baggage every week at The Porch; it’s just easier to see the bags here on the stage. All our baggage does is conceal our dirty laundry. That’s all it does. We all have baggage. When you stand at the altar before God, you want to have checked your baggage, you want to have checked their baggage, you don’t want to bring it with you.

We’ve talked a lot about materialism in this series. And the truth is, the world’s economy depends on you trying to hide your baggage. It depends on the person you pursue trying to hide their baggage. And it’s going to help them to hide their baggage.

Checking Your Baggage, adapted from a talk by Louie Giglio
- the way that you battle lies is with the truth. Go to Philippians 4:8.

The Baggage That You’ve Received From Your Parents
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1
9
Aug

Boy Meets Girl (Part 2)

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The Porch at Watermark, August 9, 2011
Jonathan Pokluda, Boy Meets Girl

Intro: JP’s daughter, Presley, loves cats. JP’s parents have two cats and Presley and Finley love playing with them. What this means: cats absolutely HATE Presley. Presley doesn’t know how to love cats–she grabs them by the fur, throws them, etc in her attempt to love them. While she thinks she is loving them, she is hurting them. In the same way, we as young adults don’t know how to love each other.

If you are here and you want to be loved or to love somebody, that is okay. It’s good. It’s how God designed it to be. But before you can return that love or give it, there are things that we need to understand from Scripture and what the Lord has said.

Are You Ready To Love? (1 Cor. 13)
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6
9
Aug

How YOU doing?

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How YOU doing?

I’ve joked  before saying, “Do I have the word ‘sucker’ tattooed on my forehead”? Whether it is in regards to shopping or dating I have been talked into “needing” something I actually don’t need. I love that JP started our first message with you have to know what you are looking for before you shop, or you will be lured into all sorts of things you never really wanted/needed to begin with. Knowing what you are looking for in someone you’d date is so very important, otherwise you will fall for anything. Sadly, for a lot of women instead of knowing what we want we in a man we just want attention from any man. We wait for the next guy who will give us any attention, the next guy who will say anything that makes us feel like we are special…even if for just a day. This commonly will lead women into liking how a guy makes us feel, instead of actually liking the guy for who he is. The feeling card starts to trump the reality card and that’s when you really know there is a problem.

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.” – 1 Timothy 4:12 Read the rest of this entry »

0
2
Aug

Boy Meets Girl (Part 1)

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The Porch at Watermark, August 2, 2011
Jonathan Pokluda, Boy Meets Girl

1 Timothy 4:12

1) Speech: How Do They Talk?
- super negative? Constantly down?
- consistent ignorance or profanity?
- quick to be angry or harsh?
- James 1:19-20
- if those are the case, get out of there! Let them work on them!
- story: a woman at Braum’s with a shirt that said, “You call me a b***h like that’s a bad thing” — it is! But our society treats it as good to have attitude.
- Eph. 4:29, does he/she talk about themselves a lot?
- is she constantly in the mirror, focused on her? That won’t make a good wife/momma?
- does he/she gossip? Prov. 20:19 says to avoid a gossip
- James 3:6, the tongue is a flame of fire

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0
2
Aug

You Complete Me

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“YOU COMPLETE ME”…oh Jerry Maguire why did you have to say that??

“Think about it. If you are single, after graduation there isn’t one occasion where people celebrate you … Hallmark doesn’t make a ‘congratulations, you didn’t marry the wrong guy’ card. And where’s the flatware for going on vacation alone” –Carrie, Sex and the City

I can’t tell you all how STOKED I am for this new series “Boy meets Girl” on relationships. Read the rest of this entry »